What is the one thing virtually every mom of young children is severely lacking? Time for herself, right? And there is no worse time than first thing in the morning.
Everyone needs you when you’re a mom. And in the morning, it’s an avalanche of needs. The kids need breakfast, help getting dressed, help wiping their butts… The husband can’t find the milk staring at him on the top row of the fridge, doesn’t know where his wallet is, and forgot to let the dog back in the house… and you? Fuggetaboutit… If you had time to get a shower in and get dressed, it’s a good day.
Is this generally how your morning looks? Me too. “Morning mayhem” is a real thing, friends. I regularly break out in a sweat before 7 a.m. rolls around just from chasing everyone around the house.
So when I started reading the book “The Miracle Morning,” I was completely skeptical. Sure, the idea of waking up early to have personal time for self development and growth sounds idealistic, but I have little kids. Cutting out my sleep time was the last thing on my mind. Those minutes are precious.
While my 10 months old is probably old enough to sleep through the night, he still doesn’t. He consistently wakes up at 4 a.m. to feed. So a full night’s sleep is still not in the picture.
I came up with dozens of excuses as to why this book was not realistic for a new mom. The idea was absurd at this time in my life, really. Maybe in six months when things settle down.
And then it hit me…
There is no better time to try this than now.
Now… when quiet time to myself is so fleeting. Now, when the chances of both boys napping at the same time is about as common as an eclipse, and becomes a mad dash to catch up on chores. Now, when my time, my focus, and even my body are not my own. They are devoted to my family.
Imagine 30-60 minutes I can have all to myself. Minutes to do whatever I want uninterrupted.
Once I put it in perspective, it was a no brainer. I had to do this.
I set my alarm clock for 5 a.m. An hour before the kids generally wake up. An hour after I feed the baby his 4 a.m. boob snack. I wrote down my schedule.
10 minutes for affirmations
20 minutes for reading (personal growth books)
30 minutes for exercise
I just completed my first week. Has it been easy? Not really. Waking up an hour after you just woke up is tough, but it’s only temporary. And twice the kids have heard me exercising midway through my workout (which double sucks, by the way, because you woke up early for nothing).
But I’m making adjustments. I’m moving my workouts to the other side of the house so hopefully the kids can’t hear me. And I told my husband he’s in charge if they wake up. I also altered my schedule a bit to get more reading in, but my schedule will adjust as my needs change too. The book recommends also using the time for meditation, gratitude, and journal writing.
I also will need to start going to bed a little earlier. Because by the time 8 p.m. rolls around, I’m a zombie.
But those 60 minutes? They really are magical. I feel like a living, breathing, beautiful human being with needs and passions and hopes again. It is a spectacular calm before the chaos, and it’s empowering.
If you’re a mom who is feels stretched in too many directions… If you’re constantly meeting everyone else’s needs and putting yourself last… Even if you are exhausted and sleep is the most precious commodity on the planet… try the miracle morning.
Wake up 30-60 minutes earlier than usual and use that time for yourself. Give it 30 days, so you can establish a true habit, and then decide if you want to continue. I think you will. Because time for quiet reflection, self-growth, and self-improvement for a new mom truly is a miracle.