I had lunch with a friend yesterday. She was talking about a girlfriend who recently had a baby. She was not adjusting well, felt alone and unprepared, and needed support and guidance. My heart lurched just thinking about it. I’ve so been there. In fact, you couldn’t pay me to go back there. A newborn baby, alone in the house, the silence — then the shrieks — then the silence again. Always wondering if I was doing it wrong. Always wondering how I was going to get through this.
No. Thank. You.
You can keep those newborn memories because all I remember is misery, depression, and gently holding an alien fetus to my chest wondering if he was still breathing. Anyway, my friend wanted to send her girlfriend a care package with goodies for a new mom. Something special and pamper-worthy, not necessarily boring but necessary (extra absorbent panty liners, anyone?) At first I was stumped trying to come up with ideas, but after some time I got a pretty good list going that I think would make any new mom thrilled.