The Challenge: Each month I’ll choose one characteristic I want to build upon to help me be the best mom I can be. I will determine four goals to help me carve that path, and I’ll report back on my successes and (undoubted) failures, too. In August, my theme is HAPPILY-MARRIED.
1. Read a relevant, popular book on the subject and start taking action as I read. August Pick: For Better or for Kids, by Patrick and Ruth Schwenk
3. Try one new activity that may help me accomplish my goal. August activity: Schedule regular date nights. Now this is something to look forward to! I used to tell my husband that after kids we would be diligent about our date nights. And yet, that was the first thing to go. We were tired. We were drained. Going to bed sounded just as nice, if not nicer than hiring a babysitter, dressing up and leaving the house. But the void this leaves on a relationship seems obvious. Before long, you don’t have any alone time. You never can talk without distraction or interruption. Sometimes I would go to bed realizing I didn’t say a single word to my husband all day, aside from pleasantries. I had no idea what he did that day. He had no idea about my day. They say communication is the backbone of a relationship. Date night can help with that!
4. Determine how I will involve the husband and kids so it’s a family experience, or at least, family benefit. August plan: Schedule more family activities. When my husband and I are both in the room with the kids, it sometimes feels like we’re playing tag. “You’re it!” You watch the kids, I’ll be over here playing on my phone, taking a shower, or resting my eyes. Rarely are we ever in the room as a family with both adults actively engaged. Do you know what I mean? But my favorite times EVER are the ones we are doing as a family. And if we played less tag, and put more effort into family outings, we would all benefit.