I am an adult child of an alcoholic. ACOA. I can’t run from that any longer. For most of my life, I brushed this aside… That was not part of my identity. My fathers fate would not be my own. My parents mistakes were just that — their mistakes. Growing up, my father‘s alcoholism was…
It’s Easier To Stay Sober Than To Keep Quitting
I still remember an urban legend I heard in my 20’s about someone’s dog. It was my boyfriend’s old roommate’s friend’s dog, or something. It was just one of those stories that gets passed down and you don’t really know how much of it’s true. But anyway, the guy left his dog at home for…
Tips for your Sober Toolkit that Might Surprise You
(Sponsored post, because I love this company! Read below for how this partnership was born) A few weeks ago, I felt a deep, all-consuming urge to drink. Everything – I mean everything – that I had worked so hard towards these last 3+ years went out the window and suddenly none of it mattered. My…
You Have A Choice: Will You Take The Blue or Red Pill?
Would you take the blue or the red pill? In the Matrix, Neo had a choice — continue this path of what’s comfortable or find out the truth and be free. Blue or red. I suppose when I quit drinking I was choosing freedom, right? Red pill. Blue means numbing out. Blue means climate controlled….
Everything We Were Told About Alcohol Addiction Is A Lie
Addiction is a spectrum. The same way autism is a spectrum and sexuality is a spectrum. There’s no black and white recipe to who is and isn’t addicted to alcohol. And alcohol addiction cannot be addressed as one bucket of people who have a problem and another bucket for those who don’t. This is why…
Too Fat For Love
I saw the picture and almost threw it away, but something stopped me. I set it down and went to other things, but later my husband noticed the picture.”Who’s this?” he laughed awkwardly, afraid to say what we both knew. The picture was of me, right before eating disorders would tear me apart for the…
I Quit Drinking for My Kids, But I Stay Sober For Me
If I were not a parent, I am certain that I would still be an active alcoholic. Nightly wine, weekend binges, and late nights with fellow hard drinkers would still be my reality. When it was just me I was slowly killing, the hurt and pain caused by alcohol seemed inconsequential. After all, it was…
Addiction Feels Like The Ocean
When it came to quitting drinking, I think I finally realized I wanted more for myself. Hangovers left me despondent and lifeless. I knew there was more than this, but everything felt just out of reach. Like I was out at sea in a rowboat and I could see land in the distance, but I…
America, We Have A Drinking Problem
I think one of the greatest disservices of our times is the notion that a person either has a drinking problem or doesn’t. For most people, a drinking problem does not flick on like a light switch. It is a slow accumulation of years of a growing tolerance in addition to life circumstances. I spent…
Five Things I’ve Learned Since I Quit Drinking
Almost two years ago I broke up with booze. I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I was 38 years old, and many mornings I woke up feeling 98. The hangovers were brutal, but worse? Worse was the mom guilt as I tried to care for two little kids and all I…
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