Our Family Does Things Differently

Our family does things differently.

Our family gatherings, our day to day, and our holidays may not look like it does for your family.

In our family, we have plan A, B, C. We have options, followed by flexibility, followed by so much grace.

My husband and I live and breathe the serenity prayer in our parenting. We accept what we cannot change and change what we can (which isn’t as much as we may like).

Sometimes we do things that others might not agree with. Often we parent in a way that may not fit the mold of how you do things. And rarely do things go exactly as planned, and that is OK. Our kids are humans, not robots.

It is not our job as parents to control our children.

It’s our job to teach our children to learn how to regulate their own bodies – to learn how to live and thrive themselves. And that, my friends, is the hardest of them all, especially with children whose self-regulation is harder to manage than some.

So we do things a bit differently than other families. We march to the beat of our own drum because these little humans of mine have very special drums indeed.

And if you want to join our parade, you are welcome. And if you don’t, no worries. But you will not take away our drum, put up speed bumps, or try to slow our march. We have a route and a playlist and it’s loud, exciting, a bit chaotic, and exactly as it should be. 

In parenting there are things we expect, and what actually happens, and as parents